"These happy golden years are passing by, these happy golden years." Laura Ingalls Wilder

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Mommy Had A Meltdown

again ... and Hubby came to the rescue! What to do? I had to pick up Nathan from school to get him to a dental appointment last week. This after the day before taking him for a psychological evaluation all by my lonesome. Not to mention it was the docs first day .. and Nathan was his first patient. My child shyly hid behind my arm barely engaging or looking the doc in the eye .. and I had to interpret his muttered speech. I think the doc was amazed I could translate a favorite movie beas chs..mssss into 'Beauty And The Beast, The Enchanted Christmas'. How on earth an evaluation can be made with a non compliant child is beyond me ... but pray that the doc got enough info because we really need the eval. On to the meltdown ... after suffering through the previous day ... my nerves were frazzled. This dental appointment was made a few months ago. Most days I can count on one of my adult children or husband to keep an eye on things at home so I can run a few errands. But one by one as I asked nonchalantly what everyone's plans for the day were ... they had somewhere to go. How would I manage Nathan at the dental office AND take care of my little two year old grandson? Hubby was soon to be on his way to work ... I had only mentioned is the car seat in the garage ... when it was discovered that Ann had it strapped to a seat in her van ... sitting in a parking lot at college ... thirty minutes away. Here comes the meltdown part. My knees started getting weak .. I had that queasy feeling wash over me .. for a moment I even thought about calling the dental office and telling a little white lie about Nathan being sick ... but they were out to lunch and no one answered the phone ... they require a good reason to cancel so late ... or you get charged for the appointment. I had a good reason ... but one probably not on their list. Come to think of it ... I was too ashamed to make the dastardly call and asked hubby to do the dirty work. Aaah .. well, I can't get a hold of the dentist .. I can't leave to get son because baby is with me and without a car seat ... and hubby is getting ready to leave for work. I was really wondering when hubby would just say ... honey it's OK ... I'll just call into work and take a few hours of personal time when out flew those words from his lips .. that was my green light to head for Nathan's school not even knowing if hubby could get the OK to come in late. God must have overlooked the almost white lie I asked hubby to tell ... and He had gone before me to prepare Nathan to be in a good mood at the dentist office ... and on a scale of 1 to 10 .. he got a 9 for cooperating this time. No papoose or sedative was used ... only a minor restraint from three adults as the doctor lowered the exam chair. Life is not normally this hectic as I don't venture out much and for good reason.

My name is Mrs. Mac ... and I'm a recovering mother of a special needs child ;)
Nathan is my son that possesses and extra chromosome.


FlowerLady said...

Dear Mrs. Mac ~ My heart goes out to you. I could feel your 'melt down' as I read. God heard your need and your DH came to the rescue by volunteering to take some time off. All things worked out.

Love and hugs ~ FlowerLady

Felisol said...

Dear Mrs. Mac,
Oh, I am familiar with motherly meltdowns from the past,and you have cleverly revived them.
Thought they were passed by now.
(Daughter with epilepsy,husband tied up at work and no driver's license for me. There were many emergencies.)

I prayed for help then as I do now.
And the good Lord had mercy.
I had friends I could have asked for help, just that begging is not my thing, I am too proud.

Luckily, in the end my daughter got rid of her epilepsy and hopefully also of her rheumatic fever, and the whole doctor's emergency shebang will be bleak traumas of the past.

As for Nathan, there are many good non verbal tests he can take. I am certificated to take such tests myself, but most important is that Nathan and the test taker are familiar with each other on beforehand.
In Norway you have that right to demand such testing conditions.
If the results are not to your satisfaction, you can claim them invalid, because they were not taken properly.

All the best from Felisol

Maria Stahl said...

Ah honey... You carry such a load! I hope these people you love and serve always appreciate you - at least those who are capable of doing so. I'm praising God for blessing Nathan with such a good day at the dentist. I hope he can take some pride in that.

God bless and keep and comfort you.

therextras said...

Glad to see the happier ending. Those meltdown minutes feel bad. Mr. Mac is a wonderful husband and father - as you deserve.


Constance said...

One of my dear friends (Kim) recently was given temporary custody of their 2 grandsons, CPS took them away b/c of neglect, drug abuse and so on. Cameron is 3 and will prob need counseling for behavioral needs due to growing up in his environment. Sammy, almost 2 has Down's Syndrome and isn't walking yet, maybe due to lack of nurturing from parents? Would you mind if I give your e-mail to Kim in case she ever needs a resource, a listening ear and so on?

Mrs. Mac said...

A quick comment to Connie ... being age two and not walking can be very typical for a DS child.

My meltdown is past and thank goodness that doesn't happen often.

Felisol ... you give me good food for thought about a retake if the exam doesn't get good results .. especially since everything else has been checked off the red tape list to get therapy. I agree .. someone that has a personal relationship with Nathan should be the test giver or at least answer on his behalf.

I don't have my grandson to watch every day ... just T-W-TH and thank goodness he's a piece of cake to look after.

Kathryn said...

Oh, dear, i can't do anything but send hugs & love. Hope it all passes soon for you. :)

Trish said...

Dear Mrs. Mac...I admire your strength and dedication to your family. I understand the meltdown... haircut, evaluation and dentist appointments all so close together. Praying for you and sending love and a big ol' hug!

Pat said...

Oy vey! Meltdown justified!
That's a calgon take me away day if I ever heard one.
Extra hugs on their way to your place!!

Jada's Gigi said...

I really have no idea how you do all you do.

Cindy (Letters From Midlife) said...

I'm so glad it all worked out. I hate those panic moments when everything seems to be ready to fall apart but thankfully it usually works out. I always have to remind myself that it isn't the end of the world and I just have to surrender to whatever limitations pop up and change my plans. Easier said than done, though.

therextras said...

Love Cindy's words (previous comment). I esp need reminder of the word 'surrender'. Often.


Crown of Beauty said...

Dear Mrs. Mac,

You are one admirable woman...and I was able to heave a sigh of relief that everything worked out fine for you that day ...

These meltdowns do happen to all of us. God has given you the strength and the grace needed!